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I thanked him for his interest, but let him know that that wouldn't be happening. He asked me to reconsider and retain “an open mind.” I felt frustration and anger boil up inside me as I looked at this man three decades my senior, who had manipulated me into a meeting under false pretences and then dismissed my refusal of his advances as close-minded. Instead, I ignored his emails until he finally gave up.
Being hit on by men who are considerably older was not new to me.
But this was the first time it occurred in person and with such aggression.
Two years earlier, my relationship of nearly a decade ended.
Eventually, we arranged to meet at a cafe near my apartment.
At the meeting, we spent over an hour discussing his writing.
It seemed as if my friend's instincts were off, I thought. Earlier in our meeting, Bob described moving to the area as a 30-year-old in 1978 – the year I was born.
This revelation soured me against dating any man who was more than a few years older. Last year, after a hiatus from online dating, I decided to return.Shortly after I completed college, my dad confided in me that he had never loved my mother.When I asked why he married her, he told me it was because he was ready to have a kid and she was young and pretty - and if he had a daughter, he wanted her to be pretty, too.He asked whether I ever offered coaching services, so I gave him my card.After we left, my friend warned me I shouldn't have done that.
As with Bob, anytime I responded to the older men online, thanking them for their interest and reiterating my age-range preference (which clearly specified 31 to 42), I was offered a patronizing lecture on the value of an open mind and a laundry list of reasons they are young at heart, complete with winking references to their still-spry sexual prowess.