Dating in the late 40s
Especially for women who are middle-aged and older, it feels nice to be 'seen' at a time when society tells you that you are becoming "invisible" unless you look like Jennifer Lopez or Cindy Crawford.
I've also learned there men actually interested in dating.
While none of these options interest me, I certainly receive many offers.
Many of these offers come from much younger men (I mean, 15, 20, or 25 years younger).
With no relatives nearby to watch my son, my dating life is restricted to Monday nights and alternate weekends.
The schedule makes intimacy difficult and the dating (and mating) dance tends to be, well, not very easy.
As we sipped wine and gazed out at the hotel's infinity pool and the lights of the city, we talked about how nice it would be have to have a date with us.
Naturally, the topic turned to men and the atmosphere in the room began to resemble a slumber party. We sat side by side, swiping right and left, exclaiming with glee when we matched with someone. I had tried (and still use) other dating applications but the pool of men I had been meeting began to feel limited.
I would love to fall in love again – to once more experience that type of deep intimacy, with all the joy and pain that it entails.
In my late 40s, I never thought I would turn to a "hook-up" app for romance. After my marriage of 12 years ended, I spent most of the past decade building a successful career that allowed me the time and flexibility I needed to raise my son and assembling a close-knit circle of friends.
Although my ex-husband and I co-parent our now 12-year old son, my son spends 75% of his time at my home.
Unfortunately, as two people with impossibly tight and busy schedules, we weren't able to (or perhaps were unwilling or frightened) to carve out enough time in our schedules to really give the relationship a chance.
I've also been on several first dates that didn't lead to second dates with other men I've met on Tinder.
Then we looked for a place to continue the conversation, gave up, and he brought me home, walked me to the door and gave me a goodnight kiss.