Change friendship into dating
“You’ll get closer by finding things you both genuinely like to do.” Introduce him to your friends.
Getting along with each other’s friends shows you have a deeper level of compatibility.
If you want to test the waters with a friend you have a crush on, you might try: a) asking a mutual friend (third-party) to find out if the “friend” actually does have romantic feelings (sort of the adult version of sending a note that says "do you like me?
“Whenever I introduce a girl to my friends, it means I think she’s cool enough to meet the people who are important to me,” says Caleb, 30.
“It shows I definitely don’t think of her as just a hookup.” Tell him you want more. But wouldn’t you feel better knowing exactly how he feels about you rather than waiting around for “the next move” that he may — or may not — make? Once you’ve opened up about how you feel, it’s his turn to make the next move.
So, if you’re only meeting up during bar hours, make plans during the other 9 to 5. Go bowling or take a walk through the park—whatever you do, it should be an activity that doesn’t end in, well, you know.
It’ll give you a chance to see each other in a new light. This will establish that you have the groundwork for a real relationship—not just a physical one. “Don’t feel like you need to conform to stereotypes and act as if you like to drink whiskey, watch sports, and talk about cars—I’ve had a girl do that before and it’s awkward,” says Aaron, 28.
However much is known about heterosexual relationship formation based on friendship, less is known about how homosexual friend pairs become romantic. He studies how people dream about their partners (and alternatives), and how dreams influence behavior. Selterman studies secure base support in couples, jealousy, morality, and autobiographical memory.